Saturday Musings – It’s All About Character

Over the last few weeks I’ve been unpacking the traits of truth, trust and learning and how they’ve helped me in my own personal relationships. A good way of thinking about the principles is as the three points of a triangle. In this article I’m going to explore what is in the centre of all of us…..our character.

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Many people confuse doing good as their character. Doing good is the result of good character and NOT character in itself. What is character? One dictionary defines good character as:

“The stable and distinctive qualities built into an individual’s life which determine his or her response regardless of circumstances.”


A stable person often has a set of values that form the bedrock of their life. These values determine how they interact with others and how they respond to circumstances. Notice, that I haven’t made a judgement call on what the values are.

Some people have a value of selfishness that results in every interaction they have being focused on benefiting them. From their perspective life is all about accumulating more rather than giving out.

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The Power in a Learning Mindset

In my last two “Saturday Musings” I’ve shared about the two life principles of truth and trust. Both these principles are the foundation stones for building strong relationships that stand the test of time. Even though they are vitally important, without the third principle learning, truth and trust can become soul destroying as you berate yourself for, yet again making another mistake.

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A learning mindset means that when you “blow it”, you give yourself the grace to learn from the situation. This provides the liberty to improve yourself if you’re faced with the same issue again. A learning mind focuses not on condemnation but on improvement.

To illustrate this point, let me share with you a story that I read a number of years ago. An IBM salesman received a phone call that meant he’d missed out on a $10 million-dollar deal. He’d put a lot of effort into trying to secure the agreement, but the results clearly showed that he’d cost the company a lot of money.

With a downcast face he packed his personal belongings into a box, stepped out into the hallway and closed his office door for the last behind him. He headed to his boss’s office to say good-bye. “It’s always better to resign rather than be fired,” he said to himself.

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Saturday Musings - How to Develop Trust

There is nothing stronger than when you trust a person completely and nothing more devastating when trust is broken. So how do you gain someone’s trust and how do you maintain it?

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Both these questions are at the heart of our society as trust is the glue that bonds us all together. Without some level of trust, your relationship with your spouse, children, neighbours, and government would shatter.

From a business perspective, contracts may spell out what each party expects of the other but ultimately, it’s trust that underpins the agreements. Without trust, we won’t have business and society fall into anarchy.

The first thing to realise about trust is like every relationship it’s built upon a solid foundation of truth. I discussed truth in last week’s Saturday musings and you may want to have a read of that article. Assuming you are truthful then how do you build trust?

The fact is, trust takes time to develop. Although it can be instantly lost, it’s rarely, if ever, immediately given. A good way to think about trust is to imagine everyone has a “trust bank account” that you can deposit or withdraw from. The question is, what are you depositing and withdrawing?

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The Best Christmas Gift...

I would like to wish all the readers of Whizzbangsblog, members of the Domainers Network and sponsors a very Merry Christmas and a prosperous New Year. I can’t believe another year is over and NamesCon 2018 is just around the corner.

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Both Roselyn and I were just so proud and happy for our son Timothy marrying his wonderful bride, Ruth, on her mother’s farm. It was an incredibly joyous occasion that caused me to reflect on three words that are very appropriate to the Christmas season and principles I try to abide by in my own life, “truth, trust and learning”.

You can’t have a relationship, whether it’s with your wife, kids, business partner, colleagues, or other companies without being truthful. Taking the more difficult road of telling the truth in a manner that it can be received will pay massive dividends in your relationships over the years to come.

If Roselyn never knew whether I was telling her the truth, then what would my marriage of 30 years be built upon? It’s exactly the same with business relationships. There needs to be a level of transparency where the other party is confident you are telling them the truth.

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I think you have a very good philosophy about how to have the best relationships with all the people in your life, immediate, fri... Read More
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A Merry Christmas to you as well Rawgi. BTW - hopefully we can find a game to play together again like Firefall :-)
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