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Saturday Musings - What's in an Apology?
I would like to start with saying a big apology. Yesterday I discovered that my consulting emails for those people asking me to provide them some assistance with their domain portfolio have been going to my SPAM folder.
I found this out when I logged into my clarity.fm account (great system for managing consulting btw) and found a whole host of people had requested some time with me…..whoops!
I strictly limit the amount of time I allow for consulting but not replying was plain rude. I’m very, very sorry that I didn’t respond back to you. If you are wanting some help with your domain portfolio then please feel free to click on this link and I’ll make sure I get back to you in a timely fashion.
This brings up an interesting point. I’ve found many people believe that saying sorry is a sign of weakness and it’s the last thing they’ll do. It’s almost like they’ve been scripted by their lawyer to never admit any sort of liability in any situation….including their relationships.
Apologising to someone is not about making you feel better. It’s all about the other person and viewing the situation from the other persons perspective not yours. This means saying sorry isn’t about whether you are right or wrong but more about how the other person is feeling.
Too many people have the mistaken belief they should only say sorry if they have done something wrong. If they believe they are right, then they will stand their ground and never apologise at all. What they end up with are fractured relationships because they’ve never understood the true purpose of an apology.
When you apologise, you should never try to justify your position but fully empathise with how the other person is feeling. This means you are not showing weakness but rather sensitivity and strength of character from a base of thinking about others before yourself.
The true purpose of an apology is to bring people together, not tear them apart. If you have wronged someone then whatever you do, apologise but if you believe you haven’t wronged someone then apologise anyway. It means you value the relationship above your own pride.
I love the weekend and one of the things I really enjoy doing is writing Saturday Musings. For the past decade Saturday Musings has become a regular fixture in my weekly routine as I pause and reflect on life. I hope you’ve enjoyed me sharing my journey and you’ve received some sort of inspiration for your own life.
Have a great weekend.
Comments
I agree with the sentiment.
My only comment is this: couldn't find a bigger picture of your self for the blog post?
LOL! It's actually a small picture but when I use it for the top of a blog post it gets massively blown up. You have highlighted that I really need to get a new picture though.....
I will also agree with the sentiment. Empathy is something lost in our world. I think some are afraid of , like you said , showing weakness. Another lost trait is to take responsibility for what you do good or bad. I believe owning up shows strength and integrity, but that is my opinion from time past. Stuff happens to all of us it, doesn't hurt to show a little compassion and understanding to others. I was told once that people may not remember your name, or where you are from, but they will remember how you made them feel.
I will also add that I look forward to your Saturday Musings. Reading about happenings, concerns, and what your outlook is on our world today brings us closer, almost like we were there. Maybe I'm full of it, but I like them, please continue.
Rawgi, you continue to inspire me to write....I just wish there were more hours in the day. :-)