Saturday Musings – My Daughter's Turning 21

Saturday Musings – My Daughter's Turning 21

There’s nothing quite like your eldest daughter turning 21 to really focus your attention on the years that seem to have sped by. I’m so proud of the young lady that she’s become.

It seems like only yesterday that I held her in my arms for the very first time. Her wide open eyes soaking in the world around her…..and then she pooped in my lap. I really didn’t mind as the loving bound between us that was forged in those moments would stand the test of time.

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In the early years, like every Dad, I was my daughter’s hero. I was like superman, able to lift large toy boxes down off shelves, build complex train tracks and give copious amounts of tickles. Holidays were times of laughter and playing games together.

In the teenage years Dad became a bit of a “he’s the old man”. The bound between us was tested but it was built of stronger stuff than steel. The transition from telling Sarah what she should do to advisor was a little traumatic at times as I watched her make mistakes, learn from them and then sometimes make them again. I wanted to reach out to catch her so many times but knew she needed to learn from her own experiences. It was tough being a Dad.

But now she’s 21 and I couldn’t be prouder of my daughter. Sure, she’s done some pretty amazing things such as getting qualified and working in her industry but it’s more than that. A lot more than that.

When I look at Sarah I see a young lady of character and as her father this is so much more important than her achievements. She’s patient, loving and kind. She loves telling me about her friend’s successes, while downplaying her own. She easily forgets the wrongs done to her by others in her desire to care for them.

She’s a lady that does her best to be truthful and protect those around her from harm. I’ve never seen anyone that perseveres like her and she always hopes for the best in every situation. More certain than all of these things I know that our love for each other will never fail.

So as we celebrate Sarah turning 21 today I have the privilege of looking at her through a father’s eyes, with all of our memories and knowing that we will make many more together in the years to come.

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Michael Gilmour has been in business for over 32 years and has both a BSC in Electronics and Computer Science and an MBA. He was the former vice-chairman of the Internet Industry Association in Australia and is in demand as a speaker at Internet conferences the world over. He has also recently published his first science fiction book, Battleframe.

Michael is passionate about working with online entrepreneurs to help them navigate their new ventures around the many pitfalls that all businesses face. Due to demands on his time, Michael may be contacted by clicking here for limited consulting assignments.

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Saturday Musings – Is Anyone Listening?

Saturday Musings – Is Anyone Listening?

I don’t know about you but I feel we live in an age where everyone seems to be shouting and very few people are listening. Companies are screaming out their marketing messages and now even some friends have fallen into the trap of effectively yelling via Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. What’s happen to the lost art of someone listening and giving you their undivided attention?

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Mobile phones are incredibly useful devices but one of the most under-rated features would have to be the off switch. I get so frustrated when I’ve travelled to the other side of the world to meet with someone and they’re constantly glancing at their phone. I may be smiling but inside I’m resisting the temptation to grab their phone and stomp on it.

A few years ago I was having a lunch meeting where it became clear that anyone that called/texted/facebooked the person I was meeting with had priority over me. While they were on their fifth phone call I texted them and it effectively said, “Let me know when you’re available for our lunch meeting.”

If you’re waiting on an important call or message, then just apologise by letting the person in front of you know. Doing this is respectful and plain just good manners.

Sitting above our dinner table at home is a sign which says, “This is a phone free zone”. Both my wife Roselyn and I believe that having dinner without phones isn’t a big ask of our children. When the sign first went up there was some scepticism until one of the kids quickly checked their phone at dinner and just as fast mum whisked their dinner towards the trash can. Luckily for them it didn’t get dumped but they got the message.

In a world where we are constantly being bombarded with messages, listening to the person in front of you has almost become a lost art. To have someone give you their complete and undivided attention is sadly, almost archaic. There’s a very good reason why we have two ears and one mouth….we should all be listening twice as much as we speak.

Giving someone your undivided attention is not only respectful but amazing things seem to happen. Business can get done, you often learn something new and problems can suddenly easily be solved.

I recently went to the local optometrist, had my eyes checked and not surprisingly need to up my prescription. After wearing my new glasses for a couple of weeks I really wasn’t happy as their seemed to be a problem with them. I went back to the optometrist met with a staff member who said I needed to make an appointment with the manager.

I returned a few days later and the manager said that I needed to meet with the resident optometrist. I again returned a few days later and the optometrist didn’t bother to ask me any questions but wanted to test my eyes again. I stopped her and in some frustration said, “Can someone please just listen to me rather than jump to conclusions!”

There was a bit of stunned silence at my outburst so I took advantage of this and explained the problem I was having with the glasses and within a few minutes a solution was worked out. They just needed to learn to listen to the customer before the customer goes somewhere else.

I’m just as guilty as many of the people in my above examples…..but probably like them, I’m working on the problem. I lead an exceedingly busy life but that is no excuse for being rude and not giving someone my undivided attention. Please accept my apology if I have been rude to you in this manner. Likewise, let’s all learn to listen attentively before we speak.....in the meantime I just need to go and tweet, facebook and Google+ this post. ;-)

Have a great weekend!

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Michael Gilmour has been in business for over 32 years and has both a BSC in Electronics and Computer Science and an MBA. He was the former vice-chairman of the Internet Industry Association in Australia and is in demand as a speaker at Internet conferences the world over. He has also recently published his first science fiction book, Battleframe.

Michael is passionate about working with online entrepreneurs to help them navigate their new ventures around the many pitfalls that all businesses face. Due to demands on his time, Michael may be contacted by clicking here for limited consulting assignments.

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Spot-on article! We have become addicted to devices and human interaction is a lost skill. (I can't believe I just called it a ski... Read More
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Thinking About What Easter Means

Thinking About What Easter Means

As fun as they are, Easter is a lot more than a time for egg hunts, chocolate and various other indulgences. Whether you are a Christian or not, we should all respect that at its heart, Easter is all about love. Jesus, God incarnate, sacrificing himself for us.

Like you, I was horrified by the senseless carnage portrayed across our television this past week as suicide bombers blew themselves up in Belgium. Terrorist actions like this aren't born out of a heart of love and care but from a desire to kill and destroy. How is it that killing a mother of twin young girls queued up at the counter in the airport is justifiable? It’s not.

At the very most the terrorists could possibly argue, “They did it to us so we can do it to them”.....but when does this line reasoning become fascicle in light of the blood being spilled? Surely the sanctity of life must prevail or in the grip of hate has life become completely disposable? To justify such senseless slaughter in the name of any religion is a prevision of that religion.

At some stage the terror must stop and forgiveness asked for and given on all sides. Without forgiveness and love the world will collapse into anarchy as one offense is rewarded with another down through the generations.

There are many people in society that we should emulate as they have a loving view of life for their fell man and woman. These people serve in the armed services, police, fire departments and emergency services all around the world. They place their own lives in jeopardy because of their love and care for those in quite often desperate needs.

So at Easter this year I would encourage you to pray for those that place themselves in harm’s way. Like the heart of the true Easter story, many of them willing give their lives for others.

God bless you and your families at this time.

Michael

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Michael Gilmour has been in business for over 32 years and has both a BSC in Electronics and Computer Science and an MBA. He was the former vice-chairman of the Internet Industry Association in Australia and is in demand as a speaker at Internet conferences the world over. He has also recently published his first science fiction book, Battleframe.

Michael is passionate about working with online entrepreneurs to help them navigate their new ventures around the many pitfalls that all businesses face. Due to demands on his time, Michael may be contacted by clicking here for limited consulting assignments.

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Saturday Musings - How To Find Happiness

Saturday Musings - How To Find Happiness

Many people feel that life is all about accumulating money, power or girls/guys. They believe that as long as you quest for these three things then they’ll be happy. Sadly, many people who attain the heights of what they believe is the epitome of success discover that happiness is nothing about any of those things at all.

A number of years ago I was at a dinner with a large group of guys at a business function. Each person around the table was trying to outdo the person next to them by telling stories about how great they were. Ultimately, the conversation degenerated into how many girls each of them had conquered and in their eyes this seemed to prove they were “real men”.

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I sat quietly eating my dinner until finally someone asked me to tell them my “stories”. I explained to them that I’d been married for nearly three decades, faithful all the time and incredibly happy with my life. I wasn’t judging any of them but just stating a fact from my own life.

There was stunned silence and then almost tentatively a number of them began to ask me how I’d managed to be with the same girl all of my life. Despite the bravado, each of them was yearning for a measure of happiness that they really weren’t finding.

In my experience, if you want to find true lasting happiness in life then you need to be committed to whatever you put your hand to. In the case of my marriage, I’m absolutely committed to Roselyn. What happens when you’re really committed is that all of your own flaws get exposed. You can put a brave mask on with friends and fake it but that façade slips down when you’re relaxed at home.

A number of years ago I had a revelation. I discovered that I couldn’t change my wife at all. Only she could do that. Likewise, she couldn’t change me…..only I could. So the adventure of my life is about changing myself into a better person because I love her so much. So the focus then became on how do I improve myself for my wife.

For example, let me share with you a silly story that had a profound impact on my life. When I was first married I went down to the local store and bought some chocolate and chips for Roselyn and I to munch on while we watched a movie. Upon arriving home Roselyn looked on sadly and in resignation said, “Oh…..I thought that you knew I didn’t like that flavoured chip?”

Why was this important to me? It highlighted that I hadn’t been paying attention to Roselyn and that I really didn’t know even her most basic likes and dislikes. I then made it my mission to change myself and really pay attention to her.

Once I made this decision a strange thing happened. The more I paid attention to her the happier I became. In other words, the more I paid attention to Roselyn’s desires the more mine were met…..it was like magic! Being a relatively smart individual I quickly worked out that this principle worked in many aspects of my life.

The more I paid attention to servicing clients the more my businesses prospered. The more closely I paid attention to my business partner the better our working relationship. I’m the first to say that I’m not perfect and regularly mess it up but I am absolutely focused on my long-term goal of learning about people and changing myself. I do this because of a deep rooted desire to show love, compassion and empathy with those around me.

So happiness is not about getting something from those people around you. Happiness is all about changing yourself so that you can better serve others. I know that this sounds a little backwards but let me assure you that I’ve found it works.

Have a great weekend!

Michael

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Michael Gilmour has been in business for over 32 years and has both a BSC in Electronics and Computer Science and an MBA. He was the former vice-chairman of the Internet Industry Association in Australia and is in demand as a speaker at Internet conferences the world over. He has also recently published his first science fiction book, Battleframe.

Michael is passionate about working with online entrepreneurs to help them navigate their new ventures around the many pitfalls that all businesses face. Due to demands on his time, Michael may be contacted by clicking here for limited consulting assignments.

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Thanks for that.
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Epik
Good post, Michael. You know the famous saying: happy wife, happy life. There is wisdom there. Indeed, I know you have a great ... Read More
20 March 2016
mgilmour
Rob, thank you for your kind words and thoughts around love.
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Traffic From Generation Y: Sarah's Thoughts

Traffic From Generation Y: Sarah's Thoughts

Today it hit me hard what a huge gap there is between people my age (generation Y) and the other older generations. Today I was reading through an article on DNW and stumbled across a podcast that talked about jumping on trends before they happen. It discussed buying domains that could potentially be worth a lot more in the future.

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I found it very interesting and I can remember when dad started domaining, he was trying to think of catchy domains to buy that could be worth more later. It surprised me that Podcasts are even still around, but what surprised me even more was that the term ‘Vlog’ was presented as an example of a domain that had lost its value. The term vlog stands for ‘video blog’, and according to DNW is not a valuable phrase that you could potentially make money off.

That was a huge shock for me because if you ask anyone my age, they would know exactly what the term vlog means. Not only that, but I would say that vlog or vlogging is probably one of the most popular forms of video on YouTube right now.

After speaking with my dad about it, he suggested that although it may be a well-known term amongst people my age, people my age don’t have the money to buy them. This then depressed the value on the term ‘vlog’ and results in the domains being dropped by investors. Another reason the domains are dropped is because people my age may use the term on YouTube but not in a domain main, which means the domains have no traffic.

So my question to you all is, why do you think there is a lack of traffic going to domains containing the word vlog? Let me know what you think in the comments!

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sarahgilmour
Thanks Eric! You have brought up an interesting point I hadn't even considered! I didn't ever think that there was a problem in th... Read More
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sarahgilmour
A very valid point! It makes more sense now that you put it like that. Youtube is the best platform for vlogs and I can see why th... Read More
18 March 2016
sarahgilmour
Very interesting Mike, thanks for linking me to that! I have to agree with Andrew, I think vlogging is only getting bigger. But I ... Read More
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