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Saturday Musings - How do you make decisions?


In this article, I’m going to make myself a little vulnerable as you read about some of my innermost thoughts. I hope and pray, that you respect this as well as receive some additional insight into what makes Michael Gilmour tick. Ultimately, my goal is to hopefully encourage you to think about your own life and what’s important to you.

Over the years I’ve found people journey through life in one of three ways:

  1. They avoid making decisions as much as possible and let others make the decisions for them. This is like being flotsam on the water and tossed back and forth while blaming everyone else for the mistakes you find yourself in.
  2. They make decisions based upon what is directly in front of them at that point in time. This is like playing a game of chess by looking one move ahead….you’re unlikely to get anywhere.
  3. They have a core sense of purpose which is based upon a set of beliefs that influence everything they do. Sometimes this core set of values is articulated while most of the time it comes of a sense of what is right and wrong.

Just over twenty-five years or so ago I was really thinking about my life and what I stood for. In other words, what was really important for me that would become the bedrock upon which I would base all my other decisions. I don’t know what sparked this period of self-exploration but I can share with you that it was one of the most important times in my life.

What I knew was that I didn’t want to be in camp 1 or 2 above but camp 3 seemed a little daunting. After going away and staring at the ocean (always a good place for me) for hours on end I came back with ten things I stand for. They are in no particular order, but they are very important to how I view life.

  1. To love God and do His will
  2. To honour and uphold my wife in all situations
  3. To love and provide for our children and to assist in their development.
  4. To listen to my conscience in all situations.
  5. To be self-directed, not sell-serving and to live courageously.
  6. To be a catalyst for change in areas that matter to me.
  7. To learn and develop in all circumstances.
  8. To treat and challenge others with respect, kindness and love.
  9. To be passionate about all I do.
  10. To journey through life with a smile on my face and a twinkle in my eye.

From this list, sprung goals and plans in different areas of my life. I’ll pick out a few of the items in the list to highlight how they’ve impacted my life.

For example, I took a close examination on how I was treating Roselyn and asked myself whether I was truly honouring my wife in every situation. I know that honour is an old-fashioned word and that in some circles is regarded with a level of distain but that one point forced me to recognise the needs in my wife before my own. It reminded me to not be selfish.

After nearly 30 years of happy marriage I can say that the depth of my love for my wife is now far greater than when we were first married. In fact, there are times when we both laugh at how we “thought” we couldn’t possibly love each more when we were first married. It also helps to have an incredible lady like Roselyn in my life.

"Listening to my conscience in all situations" is so important in business relationships. It’s the check that makes sure you do the right thing by partners, clients, staff etc. It also means that making a quick dollar by doing something wrong is actually not on the table. I’ve found the great majority of people are like minded when it comes to this point.

A catalyst for change and being passionate about all I do…..these two points are largely the reasons why I started blogging. I’m a firm believer in giving back to an industry that has given me so much. It’s one of the reasons why I share so openly my thoughts on domaining….as you may have guessed I’m pretty passionate about the Internet in general!

The very last point in my list is all about being happy and a little mischievous. Roselyn says, “I’d much rather see a fake smile than a sincere grimace.” I love being positive and happy…..especially when I have no reason to be so.

The twinkle in my eye is all about being a perpetual child. It’s being continuously curious about life, devouring each day with great gusto and then suddenly doing something that other people don’t expect.

For example, a number of years ago we took the kids out of school for six months and travelled all over the USA… was the best education they could possibly have received. It was also core to number three in the list.

Every day of the week I read about the latest in technology and science. Why? I can’t help it! I just love being curious about everything from quantum computing through to Hyperloops and nano-technology. Some aspects of this reading ended up in Battleframe, the scifi book I authored a couple of years ago.

I should finally mention the “learning to develop” point. I can safely say that I don’t always get things right. I mess up with Roselyn, in business and make lots of mistakes. For me, the continuous challenge is to, if necessary, apologise and then to learn from the experience so I don’t make the same mistake again…..but sometimes I do because I’m just stupid.

I could go on and on about how these principles have assisted me across the years but I’m sure that would be really tedious. Needless to say, you now have some insight into how I make decisions and how I will endeavor to treat you.

I would encourage you to take some time out of your busy life and to really think about what’s important in your life. Ask yourself on what basis do you make decisions and how they will create your very own slice of heaven on earth.

Have a great weekend!

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