Life Principles – Trust

Trust is the basis of every relationship.

Trust is the second Life Principle that forms the bedrock of my own life. All relationships are built upon a basis of the truth (from the previous week’s video) and trust. In fact, you could also say that society is built upon an unspoken contract of trust.

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When I look at the world today one of the things that dismays me the most is the assault upon the bonds of trust between us. COVID-19 has brought about an air of suspicion where people are fighting for the “I” rather than the “we”. You can witness this behavior at supermarkets as shelves are emptied in a frenzied zeal to protect “me”.

What makes a person trustworthy and how can we become more trustworthy ourselves? In this video I outline the characteristics of trustworthy people and what I personally look for in someone that is trustworthy.

I hope you are enjoying this Life Principle series. Have a great weekend.
Michael

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My Life Principles

The three principles that I have built my life upon.

When I was twenty something, I went on a quest to try and find a series of life principles that would carry me through the rest of my life. I needed the principles to be timeless, practical and all encompassing.

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In this video I relate the three principles that I have endeavored to rigorously apply to my life. I’ve found them to be liberating, powerful and a beacon for me to follow in every circumstance that I have found myself in.

I hope you enjoy what I share and find some merit in applying these principles to your own life. If you’ve found the video thought provoking then don’t forget to leave a comment, like or subscribe.

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Wolftalker
Sounds like a plan
14 June 2020
mgilmour
Thank you for your comment.
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Saturday Musings - Your Word is Your Bond

Are you up a person of your word?

Are you a person of your word? In a world of contracts, non-disclosure agreements and other legal paraphernalia a person’s “word” appears to be a bit of an archaic concept. Why is it then that the fictional character of Mr. Darcy from Jane Austen’s classic novel Pride and Prejudice is so revered?

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Being a person of your word is ultimately at the heart of every relationship, whether it’s familiar members, friends or in business. When you say you will do something then you will do it…..but what happens when you can’t?
In this Saturday Musings I attempt to explore what it means to be a person of character where your word is your bond and how to overcome the problem of failing the “Mr Darcy” high bar.

One thing is for sure, the world could use more people that do what they say and say what they will do. I wonder what it would be like if you were a little more like Mr Darcy and the impact you would have on the people around you. I would encourage you to take some time-out this weekend to consider the challenges posed in this video.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my Youtube channel or the browser notifications on the website. Don’t be a stranger….or a lurker, feel free to share about your own experiences on this topic.

Have a great weekend!
Michael

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Wolftalker
but only a friend can betray you.
21 March 2020
mgilmour
How true.....but wouldn't we all be a lot more lonely without them.
23 March 2020
whizzbang
Right, a 'friend' registers a domain for you, $1. He says over and over he will do one thing or another, failing time after time, ... Read More
22 March 2020
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Personal Musings – How to Gain Trust

The foundations of trust are logic, empathy, authenticity.

Several months ago, I shared with readers the three principles of truth, trust and learning that I’ve endeavoured to build my life upon. In this article I would like to expand upon the principle of trust and show you how you can become more trustworthy by incorporating the three foundations of trust into your life.

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Logic
I’m sure you’ve been in a meeting at work where a person has been giving a presentation that just didn’t hang together. Everyone else in the room can sense the lack of logic and end up rolling their eyes to one another….what they are actually saying is I can’t trust what is being presented.

The more logical you are the more likely people will believe what you are saying. This goes for all your relationships, whether they are friends, family or work colleagues.

For example, you may be able to tell your 8-year-old child that they can’t go to a friend’s house because “I said no” but trying that approach with an 18-year-old will get you entirely different results. The older child will expect to hear a logical reason why they can’t go out. They may still not agree with it but at least it made sense.

The rule of thumb is to think before you speak, and you’ll look a lot wiser. In fact, if you are in a work meeting, be the last person to speak and then you can logically build upon the input of everyone else in the room…..this will gain you a lot of trust as you’re considerate to the input of others.

Empathy
Empathy and sympathy are often confused between each other. The best way of thinking about the difference is that sympathy is feeling compassion, sorrow, or pity for another person while empathy is putting yourself in their shoes.

When you really care about another person you will become empathetic and they will notice that you are. It’s all about getting alongside them and together sharing what they are going through and bearing whatever the burden is together.

A friend of mine was doing exceptionally well in his business but within the space of about a week everything turned to disaster and he lost everything due to being caught up in a scam. He’d done nothing wrong and yet he'd lost everything.

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- extremely important, agreed. "What can I do to help?" is powerful.
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Saturday Musings - Communication

Over the last several weeks I’ve been sharing with readers on the principles that have helped me in my life. If followed, I believe the principles of truth, trust and learning will assist you in your own decision making and help you grow as an individual. This article will cover the principle of communication, which is one that encompasses everything that I’ve shared so far….and in many respects is one of the most difficult.

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There are many aspects to communication and the first one I will unpack is whether you should enter into a dialogue with a person or not. I believe that most of the time it’s important to keep the lines of communication open, even in the most difficult of circumstances but there are exceptions.

As I mentioned in a previous article I recently experienced a situation where the other person was immediately very aggressive in an email. It was a difficult email to respond to and required a very measured response that I had checked over by a number of people I respect before hitting the send button.

I find that in emotionally charged situations it’s often good to have someone else check over what you are communicating. It’s so easy to get caught up with your feelings and responding in a controlled manner can be difficult. If you find yourself in a difficult situation then make sure you get some advice from someone that is invested in your life. They will often provide a clearer insight to the situation than you can yourself.

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